This is a fifteen-minute phone call to book an appointment for next week.
That is the whole thing. Nothing happens today except a time in a diary.
You already told him in writing that you are not trying to stop him seeing his daughter. That was true when you wrote it and none of this changes it.
It is you having a say in what his time with Maple actually looks like — when, where, how often, and on what conditions.
Right now none of that exists anywhere. Nothing is written down, so nothing is settled.
Informally, it will go fine for a while. Then there will be a disagreement — a weekend, a holiday, a night he wants her and you do not think he should have her.
With nothing in place, that gets decided by whoever pushes hardest. With something in place, it is already decided. That is the only difference, and it is the whole reason to make the call.
Victoria Justice Access Centre
8:00 am to 5:30 pm, Monday to Friday. Closed weekends.
Toll free 1‑844‑747‑3963
225‑850 Burdett Avenue, Victoria
Free. They cover Victoria, Langford and the Westshore, so this is the right number either way.
"I separated from my husband this week and I have my four-year-old daughter with me. There has been family violence, there has been drug use around my child, and he has sent me a written threat to come to my workplace. I would like to make an appointment.
I am not trying to stop him seeing our daughter. I need conditions on it."
Use the words "family violence." It sounds like it means being hit. It does not — it covers threats, intimidation and control with no physical violence at all. It is simply the correct term, and it is the one that gets you seen properly.
That last one matters. Say before anything is drafted: "I want protection for myself, and I want his time with her to continue, with conditions." They can write it that way — but only if they know first.
Do not answer the 24-hour ultimatum. Not to negotiate, not to settle him down. If you meet the deadline, the deadline worked — and it will be used again.
Ignoring an ultimatum is not refusing contact. You offered contact before he ever made that demand, and that offer stands. Keep it open in writing.
The written threat is the reason this is straightforward rather than difficult. You do not have to explain years of anything to anyone. He put it in writing himself.
No family court opens on a weekend. So the weekend route is the police one, not the family one.
Even a five-minute call before 5:30 today is worth it. If all it does is get you a Monday slot, you start next week already in the system instead of from scratch.
Writing down the history, and telling Maple properly with him there — both matter, neither is today. There are separate notes for both when you are ready for them.
One call, before 5:30. Fifteen minutes. Book a time for next week and stop there.